We all have these well-formed and established 'perceptual-blind-spots' BEHIND which awaits our beloved 'other.' Don't argue with or do battle with the form of the blind spot, rather acknowledge its purpose, identify its function: to obscure the presence of your greatest gift to yourself, the memory of your original relationship. In the face of conflict produced by living in a world of chaos, simply announce "I know how I want to feel" and in the space created in the gap you just made, invite the 'other' interpretation. And then chuckle away the previous event that tried to hide from yourself your truth. It has come to set you free. You would like to free-up some of your mind wouldn't you? Don't let the world tell you where to focus it, but rather use it to remember...